Kaden James is a certified life coach who helps clients in 8 key areas of life, from CEOs to students just finding their footing in the world. He is there to guide his clients toward greater clarity so they can navigate through life’s challenges and into greater peace and joy.
Hi Kaden, we are happy to have you with us.
I am excited to talk with you about these topics that I am so passionate about.
Tell us a little about your approach to coaching.
I created Spirlit coaching to help people connect deeply with themselves, their essence, and to uncover what they truly want. So many of our goals and desires don’t even come from us, they are beliefs about where we “should be”, what we “should have” or what we “should do”. We get these should from our families, society, commercials, friends. I am here to help you loose the shoulds. After they are gone you then have the ability to embrace this moment, be at peace with what is and then from this nurturing space, you can start creating the life you really want.
What is the goal of a coach and client relationship?
For myself, it’s to get the client into their heart space and then align the mind in service to the heart. When we reach this inner alignment, we become very powerful.
What happens for people who don’t?
If we just serve the mind, like many people on the planet, we can become very destructive to ourselves in the form of stress, fear, poor decisions, and dis-ease this is where we experience the most pain. Those who continue on a destructive path and close their hearts, only serving the mind or ego have the ability to inflict great harm on the world.
That sounds terrible.
It really can be, that’s why it is so important that we look out for one another and help each other.
What made you want to help people in this way?
I understand how it feels to feel deeply alone, to be scared things aren’t going to change, to feel completely stuck in the world. I struggled a lot growing up. I never really felt completely understood. I was bullied a lot for my caring and kind nature. I felt pressure from my family to “toughen up”. I used to yell my lungs out in a pillow before school to not sound so soft-spoken.
How bad did it get? If you don’t mind sharing.
I don’t mind at all. I see everything I went through as a source of my strength. These hardships in our stories can become moments of resilience and power if we allow them too. Growing up in a small town in Idaho, well let’s just say it was rough. I was bullied, I got called “fag” a lot, I found death threats in my locker, my books would be hit out of my hands waling through the halls, I was beaten up and on one occasion I was chased with a pickup through a park I was terrified. I was scared for my life.
The constant bullying really got to me and I had very low self-esteem. I hated myself. I worried the abuse would never end. One day in high school my name with the words “is gay” was graffitied on the driveway to the school. So everyone pulling in saw it. I took the bus so I didn’t see it and was told that morning. I was devastated and allowed to leave school. I remember walking past it so sad and then having to walk for miles home.
I was so depressed and sad for many years until I learned how to love and accept myself. Then everything changed and I have seen the same thing happen for so many other people I have helped. Living authentically and not letting anyone dim your light has been the key to my success.
What is your entrepreneurial story? How did you come about building your business?
Well, I have always had the entrepreneurial spirit, as a kid I would get those catalogs in school to sell things to raise money for choir and I would always be the top salesperson hitting every house I could before dark. I would have to deliver the items over several days in my red wagon. I won some cool prizes for a kid, including a nice stereo system.
When it comes to coaching, I got very interested in personal development after helping a friend who had gone through some challenges. He suggested I look into coaching. I signed up for a course the very night he suggested I learn about it and fell in love with the field. At the time I was struggling financially. So I would just read every personal development book I could get my hands on. I took more online courses and that led to seminars, learning the tools to generate more money, and finally, I was able to work with my own coach.
You are an author as well what kinds of books have you written?
I have written a few books and I am also looking to find a publisher for my latest work which is an Adventure/ Sci-Fi that also has a lot of deep meaning and messages about life within it.
My published work includes The Daily Playbook which is a ninety-day course to transform your life. I studied the morning and evening rituals of highly successful people for well over a year and noticed correlations between what they were doing and started applying and testing their methods. I found that many of the techniques worked like magic and really helped me get on track to where I am today. As I found methods that were helping me reach my goals and experience greater peace I wanted to share them and that is how this book was born.
My most recent book that just came out is called Reflekt and it is a collection of poems and thoughts from time spent in a mindful and meditative state. Both of these books are available on Amazon and if you get a copy please feel free to send a pic of you with the book and I will repost it.
What is your business model — how were you able to grow so fast?
I have always looked at what I do as serving others. It has always been about the mission of helping people live more full and meaningful lives. Everything I do branches out from that core desire. I believe that because the intention is pure people can feel it. Spirlit has always been about people helping people. Every coach we work with has known pain, they have struggled in their lives and it drives us to help others ease their suffering and experience more joy.
What have you learned through your experiences as an entrepreneur that can be used by aspiring business individuals?
Always be honest. Ask for what you want. Listen, not only to others but to your heart and intuition. Give, give, give and more will be given to you. Trust yourself.
What makes your business so unique and successful?
Spirlit is unique because we have coaches that specialize in several areas of coaching from relationships, to wealth, career and business growth, major life transitions, fitness and nutrition, self-love and confidence, spirituality, family and the list goes on and on. What makes us truly successful is that we actually help clients achieve measurable and real results, this creates repeat clients and referrals.
What have you learned through your journey as an entrepreneur?
I have learned that anything is possible when you align with your soul goals, do your research, get mentors (AKA coaches), show up, center yourself, and lead with your heart.
What skills and attributes make you as successful as you are?
I think that is okay with being me, it took me years to embrace my voice, my mannerisms, my body, my sexuality but now that I have lived has become beautiful. That’s what happens when we learn to be grateful and to reprogram our minds to see the good. For me, success is measured by happiness and I am happy.
Why is online business, marketing, etc important?
I think it’s important to have people know how to find you and understand what your company does and how they can solve a problem just by looking at a piece of marketing. There is real beauty in simplicity. I will be honest though, spending money advertising on various platforms hasn’t yielded the returns that talking about our services in interviews like this and in video content has. This may be because what we do is not something people respond to from a commercial or a visual ad. We are still exploring other forms of advertising and are open to working with other experts in the space. We are growing as a business and as individuals. It’s beautiful to celebrate our growth with our community of clients and coaches. It’s deeply rewarding work.
Where can we reach Spirlit to hire a coach?
And where can we find you?
@Kaden on Instagram